How to Spot and Stop Manipulators -Part 4 — Final

A Guide to Recognizing and Resisting 12 Common Manipulation Techniques

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10- Trauma Loop

The trauma loop technique is when a manipulator repeatedly triggers someone’s emotional wounds, fears, or insecurities, and then offers them comfort, relief, or healing. They may use this technique to create a sense of attachment, dependency, or loyalty in the other person, and to make them feel grateful, indebted, or obligated to the manipulator. They may also use this technique to avoid accountability, responsibility, or change, and to manipulate someone into staying in a toxic or abusive relationship.

For example, a trauma looper may say things like:

• “I’m sorry for hurting you. I didn’t mean to. I love you so much.”
• “You’re the only one who can help me. I need you. You’re my savior.”
• “You’re the only one who understands me. You’re my healer.”
• “You’re the only one who can make me happy. You’re my everything.”

To recognize the trauma loop technique, you should be wary of anyone who:

• Repeatedly hurts you, emotionally, physically, or mentally, and then apologizes, promises to…