How Self Help Can Hurt You: The 3 Pitfalls You Need to Avoid

The Dark Side of Self Help

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Self help is a popular genre of books, podcasts, videos, and courses that aim to help people improve their lives, achieve their goals, and overcome their challenges. Self help can be a valuable source of inspiration, motivation, and guidance for many people who want to grow and learn.

However, self help also has a dark side that can be harmful to some people. In this article, I will explore some of the potential pitfalls of self help and how to avoid them.

Pitfall #1: Unrealistic Expectations

One of the dangers of self help is that it can create unrealistic expectations for ourselves and our lives. Many self help authors and speakers promise quick fixes, easy solutions, and miraculous results. They often use catchy phrases like “you can have it all”, “you are limitless”, “you can manifest anything you want”, and “you are the master of your destiny”.

While these messages can be empowering and uplifting, they can also set us up for disappointment and frustration. The reality is that life is complex, unpredictable, and sometimes unfair. We cannot control everything that happens to us or around us. We have limitations, challenges, and failures. We have to deal with uncertainty…